Master Living
10 Essential Life Skills for Health, Prosperity, Success & Peace of MindExcerpts from the book
LIFE SKILL #1: SELF RESPECT
“Self Respect depends on self value, and self value depends on self respect. Self value is not one of the essential life skills, but it is at the very core of any effort of self improvement. In order for me to invest time, effort, will and even money into improving myself I have to deem that the effort is worth it. I have to either believe or know that the investment will pay off. A sane person will first believe that a house will be a good investment before they will buy it, and pour thousands of dollars and hours of time into fixing it up for resale. There has to be a fundamental foundation of valuing the self in order to be able to genuinely give to the Self.
How is this self value cultivated? In our culture today there is rampant self-degradation. Are we born valuing our inner self? I think so. Are we taught to not value ourselves? Yes and no. We are typically taught in our society that we are physical beings that think, and that we have some spiritual needs. In this system, self respect is unnecessary because there is nothing inside, deeper. This is a much harder base to operate from in terms of developing self-value. Self value in this system depends on what you do or become physically. Are you beautiful? Then you are valuable. Are you a high achiever? Then you are more valuable. Are you entertaining or very athletic? Then you are even more valuable. All these criteria are subjective and conditional states of value. You can lose your beauty over time, you can lose your job-position-status, you can lose your athletic ability and you can lose the public’s favor with your style of music or jokes. This subjective and conditional state of self value is tremendously insecure. It continues to generate a culture of fear, greed, worry and shallowness because at any turn you could lose your base of value.
Self Respect gives us the hope for change. Self Respect makes us able to admit the changes as they occur.
On the other hand, if you choose to invest in the system that we are thinking spiritual beings that are having a temporary physical experience, then you stand to develop solid, lasting self value based in an objective and unconditional state. When we teach our children that they are spiritual beings learning how to work the mind and the physical, it leaves the door open for them to find, firsthand, their spiritual source through self respect. In this system there is reason for self respect, looking deeper inside, because there is a deeper inside. They are free to explore the inner realms as well as the outer realms, and their point of reference, their point of identity, becomes established from the inside out, from the spiritual to the physical. When we truly accept this identification as first a spiritual being, then we can find the commonality among us all, the spiritual thread that connects us with each other, and our common source.
When we have firsthand experience with our spiritual identity, we can see through further self respect that we have an intrinsic value as a being. We can experience the divine quality that runs through everything in creation, that we are part of this divine creation, and therefore that we are also divine beings with tremendous intrinsic value in the whole. From this self respected perspective of unconditional self value we can then invest in improving our control of our minds, our hearts and our bodies, from the inside out, as it was meant to be. We will learn and master all the life skills and teach them and our common divine ancestry to our children, so they can also start with real self value.”
LIFE SKILL #2: UNDIVIDED ATTENTION
Undivided Attention pays respect to the condition of the mind at the time direction is employed. The mind is engrossed in the interactions and endeavors in the physical world. To give attention to the quality and nature of your thoughts is to think before speaking and acting. To accomplish this requires full attention in the conscious mind.
The conscious part of the whole mind exists in the physical level of consciousness only. The conscious mind is tied to the body, the physical ego, the waking mind. The subconscious part of the whole mind exists in four inner levels of consciousness that together comprise what is often called the soul. A third division of the whole mind, the superconscious mind, exists in the two innermost levels of consciousness. Together, these three divisions of mind function in seven levels of consciousness. The Essential Life Skill known as Undivided Attention is the faculty that enables us to function in each of these levels. Self Respect gives us the hope that we can do so in a manner that is illuminated and evolved.
Undivided Attention pays respect to the parts of mind beyond the physical world. Undivided Attention is the open door that leads into mind. Attention is the sense of the mind, enabling human man to distinguish himself from the animal body that encases his soul.
“Undivided Attention is the mental action of paying respect to one thought, person, or thing. “
When purpose is added to attention the result is the causal factor of karma – intention. Intention is the power of thought to be made manifest.
The human body has five distinct means for receiving information from the environment. These are called senses. Watch a very young child. They see a block with their eyes. They reach for it with their hands, touching it. They smell it, taste it, and will rattle it to see if it makes sound. They are instinctively using all the body’s resources to identify something in their environment. It is the sixth sense – attention – that enables the child to determine the block’s usefulness. Does it taste good? Mental attention enables the mind to say, “No.” Does it smell good? Mental attention is indifferent, satisfied with the previous experience. Does it make noise? Mental attention says, “No, not until it hits the table.” How does it feel? Mental attention lets the child know the block is hard, unyielding under the pressure of fingers. What does it look like? Mental attention opens the mind to the possibility of future recognition of this chunk of wood.
Mental attention at any age is the key to all the mind’s abilities. It unlocks the experiences the world around us brings.
LIFE SKILL #3: CONCENTRATION
“Our thoughts create the reality we live, and those thoughts are electromagnetically expressed into our energy field. As others come into contact with us, these energy fields interact. Thus it makes us happier to be around certain people while others have an unsettling effect upon us, even when there are no words exchanged.
The answer is not to run away and avoid unpleasantness. The answer is, like the one given to this child, to become Self aware. Self respect gives us the motivation. Undivided Attention gives us the means to be conscious, awake. Concentration enables us to distinguish thought, emotion, and action so we can understand the whole Self.
Concentration is holding the mind’s attention at will, upon a chosen thought, person,place or object for as long as desired. Concentration keeps us in the present to receive Self realization.
Your concentration ability is more than luck or chance. Concentration is a skill, and so it can be taught and learned. In School of Metaphysics classes we teach how to practice and strengthen concentration by using an object as the focal point for the attention. The word concentrate comes from the Latin com and centrum which means center. The Undivided Attention is directed toward a common center or objective, in this case a flame. Extending that attention over a predetermined length of time is the act of concentration.
Our ability to concentrate largely determines our success in life. It will be a key factor to the relationships you have, the money you make, the quality of your health and your longevity. Your capacity to hold what you desire within your mind’s eye guides your every thought and action toward the fulfillment of that desire.
LIFE SKILL #4: MEMORY
The function of Memory enables us to move out of present time. It enables our consciousness to be pulled towards something that has already occurred, something that has previously happened in our experience. Sometimes we remember a physical event, sometimes it is an emotion attached to that event, or an attitude. Whether we are remembering how to spell our own name or the day that we were married, Memory serves to aid us in being able to identify the cause of what we experience.
This is a developed skill. It does not happen automatically.
Habits are a function of Memory. They enable us to be able to draw upon experiences and the value of them, at will, without the necessity of taking time or effort to recall or to learn. To see this, all you need do is attend a child who is learning how to read or write. Many times the process can be arduous and difficult. The ability to move the hand to form a circle, then add a stick on the side of it to form the letter “b” is something you probably take for granted. You have practiced it over and over, training the body to respond with ease and grace. Reading or writing then seems to happen almost by itself, we don’t even need the presence of mind to make it happen.
MEMORY is using past experiences to add to the present and is the foundation for reasoning to occur.
Memory becomes more accessible as a function of Undivided Attention and Concentration. It builds upon the previous life skills. Keen attention creates nerve clusters which make Memory more accessible. Each cluster cell represents different aspect of a meaningful experience. Photographic memory is the result of mastery of the first four essential life skills. we will eventually call Reasoning.
At its best, Memory is a tool in the mind of the reasoner to improve, learn, and grow in spirit. “Those who do not remember the past are doomed to repeat it.” I’ve read this line in books, heard a wizard speak it in a movie about King Arthur, and seen it at Holocaust museums. It only holds truth when there is enough consciousness attached to it to understand the cause that has created that past. Just remembering the past is never enough. There must be other elements involved in our thinking for progress to be made by one person or by many.
Memory is the tool we use to make ourselves and our world stable and better.
LIFE SKILL #5: LISTENING
“Listening is very much an acquired life skill. The ability to still the mind is honed with the Listening skill. Careful listening, that is listening with the heart and with presence of mind, is a function of concentration. To listen well, you have to concentrate. To listen well, you have to have a still mind, a humble and still ego, and you have to care about what you are listening to. There has to be a space made for the new information being spoken towards you, and it somehow needs to be made important enough to receive. I have found that if you really listen with patience and receive anyone that you encounter they will reveal to you what they desire or need in one way or another. You are open, they are open, truth comes out. Many relationships are forged on the willingness of those involved to listen to one another. Many realizations are experienced in the same way. Listening is the choice to allow another’s thoughts into your mind. Mastering the art of listening requires intelligently, discriminately, and effectively receiving others’ thoughts for the enhancement of individual learning and growth. There is an energetic exchange that happens in listening.
“The capacity to listen is priceless to one desiring Self awareness for it is the open door for Self-honesty, Self-reflection, and Self-correction.”
One person speaks and the other, the listener, gives value to the speaker. How do you give value? You very simply decide that you want to find something valuable in what the other person has to say. You don’t have to agree with them, be persuaded, lose your identity or become like them. You just choose to welcome into your house a wealthy visitor who is going to give you a gold coin.
The visitor is the speaker, and there is bound to be something they say that is useful, clarifying, cheering, illuminating, or informative to you. In that way, you give them value, you give them importance. Whenever you give your attention to someone or something, you are giving it value, importance and the tremendous energy and power of the focused mind. Today practice giving your full and undivided attention to each person you meet. When greeting them say aloud, “I look forward to what this interchange will bring!” You may be pleasantly surprised at the way this admonition influences you and your partners in experience.”
LIFE SKILL #6: IMAGINATION
When imagination is used the right side of the brain “lights up” in wave activity. Imagination gives desire wings and hope the will to manifest.
Imagination is behind every child’s daydreams, in front of every great leader. It is the inner desire to make a difference in the world and, in its highest manifestation, the desire to make the world a better place because we have lived.
Few people realize or entertain the connection between imagination and wisdom. Most believe imagination is being different from others, or standing out in a crowd. Some deny their imagination with “I can’t” attitudes.
The ability for compassion, for kindness, to love your neighbor as yourself, is a function of imagination. It is a function of your ability to place yourself in someone else’s position. I remember as a single child, growing up I would travel with my parents. I would occupy the backseat of the car, often turning around to watch the parade of buildings and cars behind us. More than once I can remember looking over as we were stopped at an intersection at a car traveling perpendicular to ours. If I saw children I wondered, “What is your life like? Where have you been and where are you going? Are you happy? Sad?” I wondered what these kids were learning, what their teachers were like. I wondered what that kind of life would be like. I wondered.
Imagination is the spark of potential creativity that exists within every individual.
The ability for wonder opens the mind to imagine. The ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes is the beginning of expanding beyond the limits of yourself and being able to recognize the kinship with all of humanity, the reality that we are all, in spirit, brothers and sisters.
Imagination is the world of dreams. The ability to create the man or woman of your dreams and believe that someday you will find him or her and someday you will create a life with them is a faculty, not of memory, rather of imagination. The ability to experience something and believe it can be different, to believe it can be better, it can have an outcome which is more whole, more complete, happier and healthier, is a function of imagination.
By imaging, we create. With intelligence we can create anything we conjure up in our minds. Inventions, problem creating and solving, making things better, changing habits, becoming enlightened are all possible because we are mental creators.
Employing imagination opens us to the possibilities of a different way to look (think diet), speak (think foreign language or public speaking), live (think new job, house, position), or be (think self-reliant, self-disciplined, healthy).
LIFE SKILL #7: BREATH
In breath is the first action of the newly incarned soul, and the out breath is the last action of a lifetime. All the breaths in between are opportunities to experience the depth of life-giving connection from the Source of Being. The spirit of God moves through breath and forever gives energy to the whole system, mentally, emotionally and physically.
When we focus on breath we cause the physical body to be relaxed. We cause emotions to be calm. We cause mind to be still. When all of the attention is focused on breath, the mind cannot think other thoughts that might disturb its peace. Each individual can choose to breathe rather than argue. Breathe in place of fighting. Breathe instead of recoil.
When we don’t breathe well, shallowly or haltingly, we are to one degree or another keeping ourselves, our soul, from fully experiencing what is going on with our body, with the environment that we have created, with our thoughts and choices.
Breath connects us with the Earth and with the Universe. It both grounds us and frees us to the heavens. When we breathe, we are committing ourselves to being fully present in our physical experiences. We are in effect uniting the soul part of us with the physical part so the mind and the body can coordinate in the same place.
Yogis can direct their breathing in such a way to slow down their internal organs and to increase their brain wave activity.
The breathing almost ceases entirely in the deepest of meditation as the body essentially switches over to a suspended state of animation and sustenance from pure energy rather than internal combustion. As the yogi comes up from this deep meditative state, the breathing begins increasing and the body’s internal combustion engines begin again.
Breath is the way the body drives its energy system, just as air feeds a fire. Its importance to us is everywhere in our lives. It is the breath that stimulates the cleansing that brings health. It can also bring miraculous healing.
Set a timer for 10 minutes, or have a friend notify you when 10 minutes have passed. For the entire 10 minutes you will give your full attention to your breathing. Do not try to alter your breath in any way, just breathe naturally. Stay with the flow, experiencing the act of breathing, observing the movement.
After this exercise note your thoughts. What was your first thought when you learned your time was up? Did you stay with the breath the entire time? Did the breath remain the same or did it change? Did the time seem short or long? How do you feel now? Physically? Emotionally? Mentally?
Be as detailed as possible in your account, particularly if this is the first time you have tried something like this. You will reference this many times in the weeks and years ahead. Each day for the next week repeat this same exercise, journaling afterwards.
LIFE SKILL #8: REASONING
When reasoning is present understanding follows. The depth and clarity of thought provides greater illumination in the event at hand. Previously polarizing situations can be neutralized. Heart lessons – acceptance, allowing, forgiving, thanksgiving and the like – can be admitted and made a part of self. In this way reasoning promotes intuition.
Reasoning enables us to see a whole picture – in mind. It frees us to becoming mental creators like the Creator who gave us existence. Reasoning requires whole brain activity. The Essential Life Skills empower you to use the existing mind potential.
Reasoning is a culmination of several essential life skills. Reasoning combines the directed use of memory, supporting imagination, with the undivided attention of using the whole mind. Reasoning would not work if we simply used memory, imagination and attention. Attention does exist in the body itself. Animals exhibit the power of attention. However, undivided attention requires the use of the will in keeping the whole mind present, not just the body’s senses. Therefore, reasoning is a mind skill, not a brain skill. It includes and demands the presence of the thinker.
The last function of reasoning is to recognize that there are an infinity of things which surpass it.
Reasoning is the combined use of memory, attention, and imagination to fulfill the duty and purpose of the conscious mind through building understandings.
Reasoning is the result of past, present and future all converging into a single point, the now, with a thinker present to cause there to be motion somehow. Reasoning requires breath. It depends on the thinker being fully present, in command of the mind, the ego, and the body all at once. Conscious breathing is what brings the thinker fully into the present and physical so the thinker can guide a situation to a desired outcome.
Evolutionarily, we are in the later stages of developing reasoning. We as a human race have been developing our capacity to be fully present in the body, to know its workings and abilities through sport and science, as well as know our self as through introspection, psychology and science. Science keeps revealing indirectly that we are more than our physical bodies, and psychology keeps wondering what we actually are. Introspection, through meditation, reveals our true nature as light beings. Bit by bit science and spirituality are converging on the same conclusions, that we are spirit inside a body. The more these two systems converge, the more present the thinker is in the body, and the more purposeful the thinker can be. This is the development of responsibility as a thinker, which is the later stage of Reasoning Man as a sort of species.
LIFE SKILL #9: INTUITION
Intuition is the direct grasp of truth. Intuition stands on the shoulders of Reasoning. Reasoning, in turn, stands on the foundation of the controlled use of images—memory images, present moment image interpretation, and the formation of new imagined images. Using images from past, present and future connects time into a continuum in the thinking, which in turn releases the thinking from separate, temporal identity. Reasoning in effect launches one from physical, temporal life into non-temporal life. Likewise, spatial separateness is decreased in reasoning also. Reasoning connects a problem with its solution. It connects a cause with its effect. In that way, events and circumstances in the life are connected over time and space, and spatial and temporal existence is merged with the non-temporal and non-spatial existence. Conscious and subconscious existence is unified, creating a fluid use of intuitive ability.
While the outer, waking conscious mind must discern truth through reasoning and direct experience, intuition frees man to draw upon timeless truths that are universally applicable. These are transcendental truths. They exist independent of physical differences, regardless of age, race, nationality, culture, while being relevant to all whether ourselves, our neighbors next door, or the strangers half a world away.
An aware conscious mind that is master of the body uses reasoning to produce intuition.
Intuition is the direct grasp of truth. Intuition stands on the shoulders of Reasoning. Reasoning, in turn, stands on the foundation of the controlled use of images—memory images, present moment image interpretation, and the formation of new imagined images. Using images from past, present and future connects time into a continuum in the thinking, which in turn releases the thinking from separate, temporal identity. Reasoning in effect launches one from physical, temporal life into non-temporal life. Likewise, spatial separateness is decreased in reasoning also. Reasoning connects a problem with its solution. It connects a cause with its effect. In that way, events and circumstances in the life are connected over time and space, and spatial and temporal existence is merged with the non-temporal and non-spatial existence. Conscious and subconscious existence is unified, creating a fluid use of intuitive ability.
While the outer, waking conscious mind must discern truth through reasoning and direct experience, intuition frees man to draw upon timeless truths that are universally applicable. These are transcendental truths. They exist independent of physical differences, regardless of age, race, nationality, culture, while being relevant to all whether ourselves, our neighbors next door, or the strangers half a world away.
LIFE SKILL #10: ENTRAINMENT
Entrainment is a blend of aggressive and receptive actions working in conjunction with one another. It is
symbolized in the Taoist symbol of yin and yang. The true symbol includes the light and the dark, in equal portions, swirling like a drop of water, each fitting comfortably into the other to form a whole, a circle. Within the largest area of light is a single drop of darkness. Within the largest area of dark is a single drop of light. Thus at all times receptivity exists in aggressiveness, and aggressiveness in receptivity. This is how wholeness is created.
Entrainment in the consciousness of the individual is built through the aggressive and receptive factors of concentration. The capacity to withdraw our attention from all stimuli save that which we desire to hold in mind. This is a receptive action of the mind centered upon an aggressive desire. Through aggressively focusing our attention upon a single idea, person, or thing we can receive that idea, person or thing.
“Entrainment is dedicating every thought and action; head and heart; toward becoming enlightened.”
Entrainment is a blend of aggressive and receptive actions working in conjunction with one another. It is
symbolized in the Taoist symbol of yin and yang. The true symbol includes the light and the dark, in equal portions, swirling like a drop of water, each fitting comfortably into the other to form a whole, a circle. Within the largest area of light is a single drop of darkness. Within the largest area of dark is a single drop of light. Thus at all times receptivity exists in aggressiveness, and aggressiveness in receptivity. This is how wholeness is created.
Entrainment in the consciousness of the individual is built through the aggressive and receptive factors of concentration. The capacity to withdraw our attention from all stimuli save that which we desire to hold in mind. This is a receptive action of the mind centered upon an aggressive desire. Through aggressively focusing our attention upon a single idea, person, or thing we can receive that idea, person or thing.